Why are women attracted to men who are not nice?
Why are men attracted to women who are not nice?
One needs to take a look at one's own life throughout the years & ask them self "Am I attracted to bad people because 1) I am an a-hole myself and/or 2) Was I raised in an environment full of alcoholics, substance misusers & other aholes?
Alcoholics, substance misusers often attract each other.
Those raised around alcoholics, substance misusers & violence will often stay around those who continue to mistreat them. Psychiatric abuse is a HUGE problem too. One person might not be ANY of those but the more the person tends to be an environment with aholes, it might appear that this is how most people act. The kind and caring person is often seen as not being normal because the individual has NEVER been around a nice person. However, most times, it is due to the nice people not wanting to stick around negativity. So they leave. Which is the best thing a nice person can do: STAY AWAY FROM A-HOLES!
They will try to break your free spirit, positive mind & caring soul.
This raises some thoughts as to why people stay around people who are not good for the mind, body & soul.
I often wonder why many choose not to invest their own time into enhancing & growing my mind, body & spirit.
Why do people spend time reading books, going to and/or listening to lectures about how to gain the attraction of another person when one should spend time working on themselves?
Most of those books,lectures don't teach how to be true to one's own self. Instead, they teach how to change your life to suit another person.
If one settles for less, it is a reflection of one's own spirit.
The mind and spirit is designed to grow, not to be suppressed.
Does your spouse/partner support your goals to reach a higher state of well being? Do you support your partner/spouse goal of reaching a higher state of well being?
Happiness comes from being true to thy self.
Self confidence comes from within.
Expand your mind & expand your soul so you can grow.
Surround yourself in a world full of positivity that is full of new ideas. Full of art. Full of new music. Full of healthy food. Full of exercise. Full of education.
You only have 1 life to live. This isn't your mom's life. This isn't your father's life. This isn't your friends life.
You know how to do your thing better than anyone else so do your thing.
Peace & love.