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    MadameNoire http://madamenoire.com Black Women's Lifestyle Guide | Black Hair | Black Love en-us How Conversations With Your Doctor Change In Your Thirties http://madamenoire.com/836491/how-conversations-with-your-doctor-change-in-your-thirties/ 5c8806d90303a62814b96e242996f23a Wed, 19 Jul 2017 08:00:22 EDT Julia Austin If you are thirty or nearing thirty and going in for your annual checkup, your doctors staff owes it to you to warn you that the nature of the conversations will change. You may think youre going in for your usual rapid blood pressure test, quick feeling for lumps in the boobs and vaccine updates, [] Bigstockphoto.com/Doctor In Consultation With Female Patient In Office[/caption]If you are thirty or nearing thirty and going in for your annual checkup, your doctor’s staff owes it to you to warn you that the nature of the conversations will change. You may think you’re going in for your usual rapid blood pressure test, quick feeling for lumps in the boobs and vaccine updates, but it’s going to be a little more than that. As my doctor put it, the thirties is a decade of prevention. In your twenties, you may have been able to get away with some bad habits like eating fast food, drinking a lot of alcohol and running around without sunscreen. But that’s because you still had your thirties ahead of you as a buffer period between your twenties, and the age where you can develop a lot of conditions—your forties. Here’s how conversations with your doctor change in your thirties.[caption id="attachment_834932" align="alignleft" width="424"] Bigstockphoto.com/Close up of a cod liver fish oil capsule a nutritional supplement high in omega-3 fatty acids EPA DHA and high levels of vitamin A and vitamin D.[/caption]Supplements become more mandatoryIn the past, your doctor may have recommended that you take certain supplements like multivitamins, calcium and fish oil. After this visit, you may find she has nearly prescribed them by writing them down on your paperwork as your at-home care. You’re hitting an age where your body may start to need help combatting any vitamin deficiencies, and you may feel deficiencies like a lack of omega-3s more strongly (could result in fatigue or depression).      [caption id="attachment_719371" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll ask about your family goalsYour doctor may ask you for the first time if you want to have children. Since your thirties is an important decade for reproduction, if you do want kids, she’ll want to guide you towards making the right decisions to create a fertile womb. Your desire to have children is something she’ll also connect to our next point.      [caption id="attachment_609187" align="alignleft" width="427"] Shutterstock[/caption]She may be more curious about your home lifeIn the thirties, your doctor will start looking more closely for signs of depression or anxiety. While these conditions are quite common for individuals in their twenties who are still figuring our their career and relationships, doctors take them a bit more seriously if they remain in the thirties. Your doctor may want to know if you’re in a relationship, if you’re happy in your relationship, and if you’re content with your friendships.    [caption id="attachment_720945" align="alignleft" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]She may be more curious about your workYour doctor may, for the first time, take a more serious interest in your career. She might ask what your goals are and if you’re content at work. Career dissatisfaction can be a contributing factor to depression for those in their thirties, more than for those in their twenties, because at this point, many people expect to be settled and thriving.     [caption id="attachment_715841" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She won't let the booze slide as muchIn the past, your doctor may have had little to say about the 10 alcoholic drinks you consume each week. But now, cells aren’t regenerating at the rate they used to, and your liver can’t work quite as hard to flush out toxins. Your doctor may actually request that you limit your alcohol intake. If you do drink a lot, she may ask if that’s related to depression or anxiety. In the past, she may have attributed heavy drinking to just being in your twenties.    [caption id="attachment_716694" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll go more in depth about breast examinationAs you age, your risk of breast cancer increases. At previous appointments, your doctor may have breezed through your breast exam and your instructions to check for lumps at home. In your thirties, she may describe the consistency, shape and size of lumps you should be looking for, as well as other breast changes, in more detail.      [caption id="attachment_716691" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll get more serious about your cholesterolThe older you get, the harder it is to get a handle on high cholesterol. Your doctor may have said you had nothing to worry about if you had slightly elevated LDL levels in your twenties, but if those levels are still high in your thirties, she’ll likely prescribe a home routine of a special diet and supplements.     [caption id="attachment_719426" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]If your weight has changed at all, she’ll ask about itWeight fluctuations in your twenties are common due to heavy drinking, stress about work, changing relationships, changing budgets and more. But in your thirties, your weight should start to be more consistent. If your doctor notices a seven-pound weight change, she may bring it up, whereas in the past, she would have let it slide.     [caption id="attachment_707906" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll advise more resistance trainingIn your twenties, you probably got a gold star for hitting the gym twice a week or going for a few jogs. But in your thirties, your doctor will recommend you start some resistance training since your muscles and joints can begin to weaken.      [caption id="attachment_693716" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]If you smoke, she’ll come down on you for itYour doctor has (hopefully) always advised you to quit smoking. But if you return to her in your thirties and still haven’t quit, don’t be surprised if her voice becomes sterner. Again, your organs can’t take the beating they could in your twenties.     [caption id="attachment_608268" align="alignleft" width="467"] Shutterstock[/caption]She may sound overall more concernedYou may notice that your doctor sounds generally more serious and concerned. While she used to have a very cheery tone and a big smile on her face during visits, certain you were probably in great shape, she may now drop her voice. Try not to be alarmed. She is just taking your habits more seriously now, and so should you.       [caption id="attachment_623973" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She may finally call you a “woman”Here’s a funny thing that may occur: your doctor may refer to you as a woman for the first time, instead of a girl. You may not have even realized she called you a girl at past visits, but you will when she starts saying things like, “ Women of your age.”   [caption id="attachment_620401" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll talk to you more like a peerYour doctor will see you as an adult now and as such, she’ll speak to you like one. She may actually open up more about her life, relating to you on issues like relationships, family, and career.    [caption id="attachment_703281" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll be more adamant about following upIn the past, if something were the slightest bit off, your doctor may have said, “It’s probably fine” and let it go. But now, if anything odd shows up, she could insist you follow up with a specialist or take additional tests.      [caption id="attachment_716692" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]She’ll ask about skin and eye examsBecause any damage you’ve done to your eyes and skin over the years will start to show up around now, your doctor may become more adamant that you go in for regular skin and eye exams.The post How Conversations With Your Doctor Change In Your Thirties appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Bigstockphoto.com/Doctor In Consultation With Female Patient In Office Things People Say To Women Promoted To The Top http://madamenoire.com/836486/things-people-say-women-promoted-top/ 2efddb5efba8775e6fa5d7a366de7302 Wed, 19 Jul 2017 07:00:01 EDT Julia Austin When a man gets promoted to the top, people talk about his merits, his experience, and his skill set. Maybe they talk about some secret negotiations he made to get there, but even still, negotiations require experience and skillset. Unfortunately, as far as we may think weve come as a society when a woman is [] Bigstockphoto.com/woman looks as she is working on the computer.[/caption]When a man gets promoted to the top, people talk about his merits, his experience, and his skill set. Maybe they talk about some secret negotiations he made to get there, but even still, negotiations require experience and skillset. Unfortunately, as far as we may think we’ve come as a society when a woman is promoted to the top, it’s still a thing. The mere fact that she is a woman must be discussed. People talk about how her female qualities will affect her work, benefit or harm her position and influence her behavior. When a man becomes powerful, nobody talks about how his male qualities will influence his work. They just talk about how his human qualities will affect his work. The way powerful women are discussed is a shame, annoying, and can be damaging. If you’re a woman promoted to the top, get ready for comments like these. [caption id="attachment_613511" align="alignleft" width="494"] Shutterstock[/caption]They’re trying to appeal to feministsGod forbid you were given the position because you and only you were right for it. Oh no. This must have been some manipulative move on the company’s part to appeal to feminist customers, clients, investors or potential partners. You’re just a playing piece in their game of chess, and right now, they needed a Queen.    [caption id="attachment_702075" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]Somebody at the top must like youMerit, skill, intelligence and hard work alone could not have gotten you there, right? Sure, people can acknowledge you have those attributes, but they just can’t believe you got to the top on those alone. There must have been a little something extra. There must have been someone at the top who had a crush on you.     [caption id="attachment_701243" align="alignleft" width="456"] Shutterstock[/caption]You’re becoming too successful for me/us/your partnerWhen a woman is successful, it can be seen as a threat to her personal relationships. People might joke that she will overshadow her partner, or be intimidating to potential mates. Friends may tease that she’s becoming too successful for them. When a man gets promoted, his friends don’t suggest that he’s no longer a suitable friend or partner.    [caption id="attachment_619447" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]How will that affect your family life?I’d love to see the day when a powerful man was giving an important speech and someone interrupted him to ask, “Who is taking care of your kids right now?” That just doesn’t happen. But of course the moment a woman is given more power and responsibility, rather than celebrating the positive of that, people immediately think about the way it will negatively impact her role as a mother. [caption id="attachment_616073" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]So you don’t want kids then?If a powerful woman doesn’t have children and she is promoted to a higher position, people will often assume that the fact she accepted the position means she has decided not to have children. Because a woman cannot possibly be a powerful career woman and a mother, right? Funny enough, if a man is wealthy and successful, people will talk about how that makes him a great provider for a family.     [caption id="attachment_702372" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]It’s because you can hang with the guysSome colleagues, in a misguided attempt to compliment you, may say that you made it to the top because you can “Hang with the guys” or “Take a joke.” They are essentially saying that you have stood by and tolerated inappropriate behavior, and perhaps even a little sexual harassment.      [caption id="attachment_711254" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]I just hope you’re not sensitiveSome men may worry that you won’t be able to “take a joke” or “hang with the guys.” Some men may feel that their boys’ club is being threatened, and be angry at the fact that now they may have to watch what they say in meetings. Rather than think about how your new position may benefit the company, they only think about how it will affect their ability to misbehave.     [caption id="attachment_622021" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]You got here because you’re not sensitive, like other womenIn other words, you’re cold-hearted, you’re a stone—you don’t have emotions. This can be infuriating as a woman because these people who say this do not realize that you are sensitive, you are proud to be sensitive, and your sensitivity actually helped you navigate your way to this position. When people say this, they’re assuming that you, like them, see sensitivity as a weakness. But you do not.[caption id="attachment_616118" align="alignleft" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]The company wanted to try a woman for a changeSo that’s why you got the position, huh? The company was just going for novelty, and you were the first woman standing around. How flattering.      [caption id="attachment_704658" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]Doesn’t hurt to have an attractive bossSome men will outwardly admit that they will, starting today, pay a little more attention in meetings because you’re running them, and you’re nice to look at. It’s not because you’re intelligent or have good ideas—those are just an added benefit.     [caption id="attachment_702367" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]Doesn’t hurt to have an attractive face of the companySome people may suggest that the reason you were given a prominent, high profile position in the company is so that you will be the one whose face is on the billboards and who does interviews with the media. And you’re attractive, so people will pay attention and want to work with you.     [caption id="attachment_709985" align="alignleft" width="378"] Image: Shutterstock[/caption]It’ll be nice to have a more accessible bossYour employees may assume (and say as much) that now that a woman is in charge, they can behave a little less professionally and bring their personal life to work. Maybe you’ll let them go home early more because they’re feeling depressed. You do hope to rule with a fair and measured hand, but you don’t like the assumption that you’ll be soft.     [caption id="attachment_720938" align="alignleft" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]A CEO—that’s hotThen there will be the men who you meet online, at bars or on blind dates who take this enormous accomplishment of yours and shrink it down to a fetish. They don’t want or need to know about the inner workings of your career. They just want to know that you wear a pencil skirt and yell at people because apparently, that’s hot.     [caption id="attachment_712971" align="alignleft" width="413"] Shutterstock[/caption]Ah. Beautiful and smartExpect this type of comment from older generations who are still wrapping their heads around the fact that women have thoughts of their own, and that women aspire to be more than just physically attractive to the opposite sex. Some men will still be surprised that you cultivated your mind when you (apparently) could’ve gotten by on your looks alone.     [caption id="attachment_609049" align="alignleft" width="415"] Shutterstock[/caption]Who did you flirt/sleep with?It’s a cliché, worn out, tired and deeply offensive question, but it is still asked. It’s nearly impossible, as a woman, to be promoted to the top and avoid this question.The post Things People Say To Women Promoted To The Top appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Bigstockphoto.com/woman looks as she is working on the computer. Ciara Is Feeling Herself And Her Post-Baby Faux Locs During Home Photo Shoot http://madamenoire.com/836479/ciara-faux-locs/ f69307af862b4a77cd388e82a075017c Tue, 18 Jul 2017 17:58:01 EDT Victoria Uwumarogie Have a baby to nurse, a son to raise and a husband to attend to? If so, hair is probably the last thing youre thinking about. In the case of singer Ciara, she wanted to make it at least one of the last things on her list of concerns after having her daughter, Sienna. But [] Have a baby to nurse, a son to raise and a husband to attend to? If so, hair is probably the last thing you’re thinking about. In the case of singer Ciara, she wanted to make it at least one of the last things on her list of concerns after having her daughter, Sienna.But her choice of hair has brought the beauty a lot more joy than she probably planned for. When you look and feel good and you’ve got some hair flowing down your back, you know what that means. It’s a photo shoot!The 31-year-old showed off her fabulous faux locs for the ‘gram yesterday and left all of us thinking that they are the perfect look for her:Late last month, the singer let everyone know she was going back to her post-baby faux locs, which were the same style she looked beautiful in after giving birth to her son, Future.We’ve actually seen the singer out and about with the locs, as well as the back of her head in them while working out. However, this is the first time the new mom has really showed off what she’s looking like after Sienna’s birth (including her face), and clearly, she’s feeling herself.We know that these faux locs are for the moment and to keep her hair from being a bother during this important time, but I think we can all agree that the look suits her nicely. #teammakeitpermanentCiCiThe post Ciara Is Feeling Herself And Her Post-Baby Faux Locs During Home Photo Shoot appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Apega/WENN.com Good Genes In Those Jeans: Fit Mother-Daughter Duos (And Trios) http://madamenoire.com/836447/fit-mother-daughter-duos/ 405df9f1118fce22593f6bf7ff2ac755 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 17:10:37 EDT Victoria Uwumarogie Weve talked about the most beautiful mothers of the stars, but what about the fit and fabulous ones? Last week, Jada Pinkett Smith talked about her mothers body, which has created a lot of fuss over the years (for good and goal-worthy reasons). I have good genes, don’t I?' she said. And you know when your [] beautiful mothers of the stars, but what about the fit and fabulous ones?Last week, Jada Pinkett Smith talked about her mother's body, which has created a lot of fuss over the years (for good and goal-worthy reasons)."'I have good genes, don’t I?'" she said. "And you know when your own mother can put you to shame, I’m like, I don’t know if I gotta get back in the gym. I don’t know what I gotta do. I just told her, I said, 'All that right there, just make sure you passing all those good genes down here.'"[caption id="attachment_830687" align="aligncenter" width="1068"] WENN[/caption]But Jada and Adrienne Banfield-Jones aren't the only mother-daughter duos (there are also trios) who take their health and fitness seriously. Check out nine other mothers and daughters who show off their great genes and hard work.https://www.instagram.com/p/BWoZZkSjJzR/?tagged=tinaknowles&hl=enTina, Beyoncé and Solange Knowles[caption id="attachment_836459" align="aligncenter" width="650"] Getty[/caption]Nicole, Bria and Shayne Murphyhttps://www.instagram.com/p/wfEFo3wSYq/?taken-by=nikkitaylor1234&hl=enNikki Taylor and Teyana Taylorhttps://www.instagram.com/p/BLGz93ygzqz/?taken-by=lori_harvey_&hl=enMarjorie and Lori Harveyhttps://www.instagram.com/p/BT9QWALjbFH/?taken-by=lanaectorfit&hl=enEllen and Lana Ectorhttps://www.instagram.com/p/BPwb27_Dsx5/?taken-by=evelynlozada&hl=enEvelyn Lozada and Shanieceh Hairston[caption id="attachment_836464" align="aligncenter" width="650"] AW/WENN.com[/caption]Valerie and Naomi Campbellyeah but that's racism , simply put .... not accepting the fact she is black .@meghanmarkle and Mom pic.twitter.com/zdVRaYwZzn— " class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />Trends" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" />" class="wp-smiley" style="height: 1em; max-height: 1em;" /> (@ChillingTimee) November 8, 2016Doria Raglan and Meghan Markle[caption id="attachment_836466" align="aligncenter" width="650"] Getty[/caption]Vanessa Williams and Jillian HerveyThe post Good Genes In Those Jeans: Fit Mother-Daughter Duos (And Trios) appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Getty Sevyn Streeter On What Pulled Her Out Of Depression When Prayer And Therapy Alone Wouldn’t Suffice http://madamenoire.com/836461/sevyn-streeter-depression/ c1c509d027e2e5e3fbf815828a685555 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 16:45:23 EDT Victoria Uwumarogie Singer Sevyn Streeter, who after two EPs, finally released her first album Girl Disrupted earlier this month, is finally in a happy place. The 31-year-old, however, wasnt there recently when she revealed that shed gone through a battle with depression and had thoughts of wanting to take her life. In a new interview withThe Breakfast [] Singer Sevyn Streeter, who after two EPs, finally released her first album Girl Disrupted earlier this month, is finally in a happy place. The 31-year-old, however, wasn’t there recently when she revealed that she’d gone through a battle with depression and had thoughts of wanting to take her life. In a new interview with The Breakfast Club, Streeter opened up further about it, saying that she tried therapy (“I wasn’t crazy about it”), and she tried prayer (“My mom is a minister, my aunt is my pastor”), but identifying her triggers and putting her emotions down on paper helped her the most.“Today I feel great. I’m in a really good space because I figured out what my triggers were,” she said. “I handled all of them accordingly and dealt with them and faced them and I have a really great family. They were praying for me even when I didn’t want to pray for myself. And I write. Writing is super duper therapeutic for me. Extremely therapeutic for me.”It took some time, but the singer and songwriter is feeling much or at peace and has learned to take things day by day.“Honestly, I just feel like for the first time in a really long time, I am in the best place that I’ve been.”In case you missed it, Streeter revealed to Vibe Vixen her depression and the many things piling on her at once that triggered it.“Turning 30 was a big trigger for me,” she said. “This is not like when you graduate high school and you get your diploma. You go to college for four years, or whatever period of time, and you get your degree. You did it, and you get to move on. I’ve literally been doing the same exact thing everyday with the same amount of intensity and focus, since I was 15 years old. To look up and be 30 years old, and to feel like this hasn’t happened yet, but you can’t quit because you’re just going to be throwing away all the years that you put into it [music]. That in itself can take a toll. I don’t care what you do in life, you want to be successful, you want to feel like you accomplished certain things. A lot of my depression was triggered by the fact that I’ve given my life to this music, and it’s in a good place, but it’s not exactly where I want it to be. I sacrificed a lot of my childhood for music, I sacrificed a lot of my love life for music.”“I looked up and I’m like ‘I’m 30, what do I have to show for all of the things that I’ve sacrificed?'” Streeter continued. “My faith level was at an amazing height all my life. I had never been in a place where I was questioning God so much. I knew well enough to know that he would bring me out of it, but when you’re in the middle of it, it’s hard to see [clearly] sometimes.”The post Sevyn Streeter On What Pulled Her Out Of Depression When Prayer And Therapy Alone Wouldn’t Suffice appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Nicky Nelson/WENN.com Mara Brock And Salim Akil To Develop New Series For OWN http://madamenoire.com/836465/mara-brock-and-salim-akil-to-develop-new-series-for-own/ 8132bd924ef69faae0bbc1d0064ae6a1 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 16:22:56 EDT Veronica Wells Get the details inside. Image via GettyTwo years ago, we learned that Mara Brock and Salim Akil had ended their relationship with BET and were going to begin working with Warner Brothers.And while that is still the case, they’ve also teamed up with Oprah and the good people at OWN to create a new series called “Love Is___”According to a press release from OWN, the new show is an original one-hour humorous drama that draws inspiration from the real-life relationship between the Akils.The couple will serve as executive producers for the show with Mara as the showrunner. It will be produced in association with Warner Horizon Scripted Television and will premiere in 2018.Here’s what Oprah had to say about the new venture.“I’ve dreamed of working with the Akils,” said Oprah Winfrey. “I’ve been a huge fan of their work since first viewing ‘Girlfriends.’ They know just how to hit the cultural nerve to make you think and laugh at the same time.”Naturally, Mara is grateful for the opportunity.“To have a partner that brings the attention to detail and sheer excellence that Oprah has built an empire on is an absolute dream come true for Salim and me. That, and it’s Oprah! ‘Love Is ___’ is not only a passion project, but is a personal one for us as well. We’re grateful to have her wholehearted support and magic touch behind this story.”The post Mara Brock And Salim Akil To Develop New Series For OWN appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Get Into All Of Ebonee Davis’ Looks http://madamenoire.com/836451/get-into-all-of-ebonee-davis-looks/ 8072aa00e2d6ab69d0bc64ab9e353196 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 15:33:35 EDT Veronica Wells Have you peeped? Getty[/caption]We’ve already professed our love for model Ebonee Davis. We’ve talked about her wokeness, how she’s not afraid to speak up and out about diverse beauty standards, mainly including Black women, and issues that affect the Black community. She’s far more than just a pretty face. And when it’s not every day that people use their platform to say something, we’re glad she’s made it her mission to do so.And while that is certainly more important than the physical, today we’re here to celebrate all of the looks Ebonee has given us since she competed on “America’s Next Top Model” and wrote that letter to Harper’s Bazaar about the fashion industry.Check out the times she channeled some of our icons, the times she shut it down in a Pantene ad, or the times she looked amazing just being herself in the world.#SuperModelSaturday ft #EboneeDavis ! @lrpeoples @ricardo_rivera @lacyredway @samanthalmua @nymag -#BlackGirlMagic #BehindTheRackTV #instastyle #instafashion #style #runway #fashionweek #fashionshow #glam #fashionglam #luxuryfashion #highfashion #fashiongram #fashiondesigner #fashionphotography #beauty #model #thecut #tbt #fbfA post shared by Behind The Rack (@behindtheracktv) on Jun 3, 2017 at 9:27pm PDTJosephine BakerRoyalty inside my DNA. A post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on May 31, 2017 at 10:01am PDTImanWhat Happened, Miss Simone?A post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on May 31, 2017 at 3:41pm PDTNina SimoneEbonee meets Mahogany. ✨ I appreciate all your love so much! Recreating these iconic images was such a dream; this is one of my favorite shoots to date! Thank you @lrpeoples and the rest of our amazing team @ricardo_rivera @lacyredway and @samanthalmua! ***** "The extrajudicial killing of black men and women prompted me to be more vocal about racism in the fashion industry because both police brutality and exclusion stems from the same system of oppression. Inclusion may be having a moment right now, but what happens when being inclusive isn’t on trend anymore? For change to endure, inclusion has to go beyond cool, beyond just hiring models of color; it has to be more than reactionary response to what’s happening in our society and politics, and making room for people of color on all levels.” To read the rest of my interview, check out @nymag #BlackGirlMagicA post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on Jun 1, 2017 at 11:34am PDTDiana RossWhat's love got to do with it? @lacyredway went off! Do you see this hair?!A post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on Jun 1, 2017 at 10:34am PDTTina TurnerEbonee Davis photographed by Ricardo Rivera for New York magazine . . . #publicrelations #pr #industrymenu #styling #editorial #newyorkmag #eboneedavis #fashion #blackgirlmagic tedtalks #photography #fashionphotographyA post shared by INDUSTRY MENU (@industrymenu) on Jul 7, 2017 at 1:51am PDTPat ClevelandA post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on Jun 1, 2017 at 4:08am PDTMarsha HuntThank you for creating this story @lrpeoples, you are brilliant. #BlackGirlMagicA post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on May 31, 2017 at 6:43pm PDTDonyale Luna#ANTM #Cycle18's @eboneedavis spotting her @Pantene ad while out and about #EboneeDavis #ANTMAlumni #PanteneA post shared by ANTM TEAM (@antmteam) on Jul 1, 2017 at 12:33pm PDTPanteneCurlfest is an example of what happens when Black women realize the power in creating our own spaces where we can celebrate one another, rather than begging others to create space for us. THIS is what we need. It was a reminder that freedom in created, not given. Never in my life have I seen so many unapologetic Black women in one place. Truly one of the most beautiful experiences I've ever had. Speaking of coming together and supporting one another, Ms. @brandicedaniel connected me to @fenoel, a Black designer out of Brooklyn, who dressed me in this amazing jumpsuit! Let's keep creating spaces where we can come together to celebrate US and all of our magic! #ForUsByUs #Curlfest ✨A post shared by Ebonee Davis (@eboneedavis) on Jul 18, 2017 at 10:03am PDTCurlFestThe post Get Into All Of Ebonee Davis’ Looks appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Getty Mike Vick Became The Poster Child For Stockholm Syndrome When He Said Colin Kaepernick Needs To “Try To Be Presentable” http://madamenoire.com/836440/mike-vick-colin-kaepernick/ fa3c67994740211e30dc92bf4a6a4fff Tue, 18 Jul 2017 13:58:47 EDT Brande Victorian Colin Kaepernick became a social justice hero in most of our eyes last year after he took a very public stand following the routine deaths of unarmed Black men, women, boys, and girls. The major points of Kaepernicks resistance included refusing to stand during the National Anthem and pledging $1 million to community organizations. A [] Colin Kaepernick became a social justice hero in most of our eyes last year after he took a very public stand following the routine deaths of unarmed Black men, women, boys, and girls. The major points of Kaepernick’s resistance included refusing to stand during the National Anthem and pledging $1 million to community organizations. A minor point is he also grew out his hair and started rocking a ‘fro. It’s the latter Mike Vick chose to focus on during his appearance on “Speak For Yourself” yesterday.Currently, Kaepernick is without a deal after being signed to the San Francisco 49ers for six years. Some say that’s because the quarterback didn’t do much for the team. Others think he’s being shut out of the league because of his strong social activism. Vick thinks he needs a haircut. He said when asked why he thinks Kaepernick is still unsigned and what he needs to do to land a deal:“First thing we’ve got to get Colin to do is cut his hair. Listen, I’m not up here to try to be politically correct, but even if he puts cornrows in there, I don’t think he should represent himself in that way in terms of—just the hairstyle. Just go clean-cut. You know, why not? You’re already dealing with a lot of controversy surrounding this issue. The most important thing that he needs to do is just try to be presentable. All the social media stuff he’s doing—we get it, we understand it. It’s time for Colin to step up in a different way.”"First thing we got to get Colin to do is cut his hair." — @MikeVick advises Kaepernick on rebuilding his image pic.twitter.com/YENvUPOIgP— Speak For Yourself (@SFY) July 17, 2017Sounds an awful lot like the argument Black boys just shouldn’t wear hoodies or they won’t be shot by armed neighborhood watchmen on their way home from the corner store, huh? Actually, it sounds more like Stockholm Syndrome, which Kaepernick perfectly pointed out on Instagram after hearing Vick’s words, which are particularly interesting given his past legal troubles (and cornrow hairstyle) and the fact that it wasn’t the people with afros who wanted to crucify him for engaging in dog fighting.After the much-deserved backlash, Vick attempted to clear up his words on Twitter, saying Kaepernick’s lack of a job has nothing to do with his ‘fro.pic.twitter.com/eiGP5HbI85— Mike Vick (@MikeVick) July 18, 2017Unfortunately, even without that detail, Vick’s words are still problematic and reek of a man who’d rather sacrifice the lives of Black people than risk taking a stand to make a change.The post Mike Vick Became The Poster Child For Stockholm Syndrome When He Said Colin Kaepernick Needs To “Try To Be Presentable” appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> ATLANTA, GA - JANUARY 01: during the first half against the New Orleans Saints at the Georgia Dome on January 1, 2017 in Atlanta, Georgia. (Photo by Kevin C. Cox/Getty Images) *** Local Caption *** When He’s Not Making Hits, He’s Making Babies: The-Dream Is Expecting His Eighth Child http://madamenoire.com/836439/dream-children/ 82d64c57cc549c01cf115ef2351f8e73 Tue, 18 Jul 2017 12:29:09 EDT Victoria Uwumarogie Back in 2014, we told you that Terius The-Dream Nash married Lalonne Martinez at the City Hall in San Francisco. In that time, the couple has actually gone on to have two sons: Heir, born in 2015, and Lord, born last year. The pair recently announced that they are expecting their third child. Lalonne revealed [] Back in 2014, we told you that Terius “The-Dream” Nash married Lalonne Martinez at the City Hall in San Francisco. In that time, the couple has actually gone on to have two sons: Heir, born in 2015, and Lord, born last year. The pair recently announced that they are expecting their third child. Lalonne revealed on Instagram that she’s 35 weeks along:As for The-Dream though, his announcement was a bit more colorful with cryptic captions and some frisky moments:This will be the eighth child for the singer and songwriter. If you’ll recall, he married singer Nivea in 2004, and during the extent of their marriage (which formally ended in 2008), they had three kids together. The former couple welcomed twin sons London and Christian and a daughter named Talia.The-Dream also has a daughter named Violet with his second wife, singer Christina Milian. The couple were married in 2009 and officially divorced in 2011.He also has a son with a woman named Lydia Nam whom he was engaged to in 2013.So yes, the little one on the way makes eight, and the couple couldn’t be happier. When they tied the knot in 2014, The-Dream said about Lalonne, “I LOVE YOU with my Whole Entire Heart and Spirit, God has blessed me in a Time where any man would feel overcome!” The “Falsetto” singer, while lauding his new Mrs., was speaking in reference to past claims by Nam that he had physically abused her. His connection with Lalonne helped him get through those allegations, which were dismissed by a judge in 2015.“God has restored my Heart!”The post When He’s Not Making Hits, He’s Making Babies: The-Dream Is Expecting His Eighth Child appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Getty Gabourey Sidibe On Those Who Try To Fat Shame People Into Weight Loss: “You Are A Giant, Gaping A–hole” http://madamenoire.com/836429/gabourey-sidibe-fat-shame/ 3d58efba9ec5515c291c5e3d77a635cd Tue, 18 Jul 2017 11:20:46 EDT Victoria Uwumarogie After spending a great deal of time not wanting people to talk to her about her weight, Gabourey Sidibe has shared her story in her own way in her book,This Is Just My Face: Try Not to Stare. Since then, shes been very outspoken about calling out and setting straight people who are way too [] After spending a great deal of time not wanting people to talk to her about her weight, Gabourey Sidibe has shared her story in her own way in her book, This Is Just My Face: Try Not to Stare. Since then, she’s been very outspoken about calling out and setting straight people who are way too consumed with the bodies of others.In a recent podcast chat on Never Before with Janet Mock, Sidibe talked about her book and how after people started identifying her as her character of Precious, they also felt they could critique her body and push her to lose weight, for her “own good,” if they reminded her at every turn that she was big. It’s a common practice for people to believe that if they negatively speak or give tough love to you about your body, it will be the motivation necessary to get you to lose weight.Today’s @NeverBeforePod features actress & author @GabbySidibe — a beacon of confidence, joy, wisdom & ferocity! https://t.co/pZp3vUqZ91 pic.twitter.com/W590ksREHX— Janet Mock (@janetmock) July 18, 2017The Empire actress and author called those people out and made it clear that they don’t want to help — they just want to tear you down.“I never wanted to talk about my weight. I didn’t. And when all the movements started happening, I didn’t want to join the body acceptance movement because I thought I would be a detriment to it,” she said. “Because people would comment like, ‘She’s promoting like a really unhealthy lifestyle. She’s promoting being fat and beautiful and that’s not true and that’s really unhealthy.’ It’s like, I’m promoting a movie! I’m promoting a TV show! I’m not telling you what to eat, what not to eat. Because the honest truth of it is I have had several trainers throughout my life. I have been on every single diet throughout my life. I know what I look like.”She continued, stating that just as she’s not out here worried about anyone else’s body, we shouldn’t be so worried about hers, or anyone else’s.“People pretend that they care about my health by calling me a ‘fat disgusting b—h,'” Sidibe said. “You do not care about my health, you are just a giant gaping a–hole. And you think you can have an opinion about me but this is my body. I’m not out here in these streets writing think-pieces about how your d–k is too small.”Last fall, she spoke about not letting that negativity mess with her spirit.“How often do people tweet things at you that don’t make you feel great?” she said to Watch What Happens Live host Andy Cohen. “The second you decide to feel great about yourself, you feel great. It’s not the fame. It’s not the money. What little money there is — I’m not rich. It can’t come from some outside source. I got a lot of therapy in my life. I champion for therapy. Therapy is everything. Really sit with yourself, no matter what age you are. You have to figure out what about yourself you love.”The post Gabourey Sidibe On Those Who Try To Fat Shame People Into Weight Loss: “You Are A Giant, Gaping A–hole” appeared first on MadameNoire.]]> Getty