Attraction Secrets Of The True "Alpha Male"
Leadership is about having a twin set of skills that balance and complement each other.
1- Being able to strongly guide and set a strong direction.
2- Listening to the other person to find out where they are at and what moves them.
This is the ideal combination that, in fact, can make you powerfully attractive to women , and here's why:
Nice Guy vs. Jerk — The False Choice Most Guys Wind Up Making!
The problem is, we guys are given a false choice between two bad extremes, both of which can screw us up.
1- Be the "nice guy"
The problem with nice guys is, they not only listen to a woman to find out where she is at , but they lose themselves in the woman's emotions . So, if she is upset, the nice guy becomes upset too . If she is a little bit anxious about proceeding further, sexually, the nice guy gets anxious himself, mistaking her anxiety for his own! He doesn't just listen; he loses himself in the woman. And of course, romantically, this spells disaster!
2- Be the "jerk"
Now, jerks have no problem setting and holding a strong direction . The problem is, they don't care at all about how hard they have to step all over a woman's feelings to do so . So they wind up either attracting very damaged women , or damaging the women they do attract , bringing out the worst sides of even relatively healthy women . To win, the jerk has to make other people lose. And most of us are quite naturally repelled by such a bad choice!
Leadership: The True Skill And Challenge!
The true skill set is being able to keep your own desire and intent strong, while at the same time recognizing, listening to, and gathering information about the women you wish to attract.
When you can make women feel both listened to and led, both recognized and guided , then you will carry a "vibe" about you that no busting, sarcastic, "Alpha" loudmouth could ever even hope to imitate, much less realize and enjoy.
Don't get me wrong. You can and should do all of this with and through a sense of fun and humor. But once the joking stops, the substance has to begin . And that substance is something much different than what these "Alpha" gurus have been telling you.
The hidden secret of men who are successful with women
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